Comments on: Sensitivities and Sensibilities https://blog.learnlets.com/2022/04/sensitivities-and-sensibilities/ Clark Quinn's learnings about learning Thu, 07 Jul 2022 16:36:01 +0000 hourly 1 By: Clark https://blog.learnlets.com/2022/04/sensitivities-and-sensibilities/#comment-1227625 Tue, 12 Apr 2022 22:51:23 +0000 https://blog.learnlets.com/?p=8229#comment-1227625 In reply to Christy Tucker.

Thanks, Christie. I think having appropriate venues that aren’t ‘always on’ would be a good idea. Unfortunately, “pause and slow down” is mostly a ‘do as I say, not…’ :(. Working on it.

]]> By: Christy Tucker https://blog.learnlets.com/2022/04/sensitivities-and-sensibilities/#comment-1227477 Tue, 12 Apr 2022 17:44:09 +0000 https://blog.learnlets.com/?p=8229#comment-1227477 Many years ago, the religion site Beliefnet had active discussion forums. As you can imagine, when discussing religion, things can get really heated very quickly. One of their strategies was to have specific boards where you were allowed to have more heated debates. The arguments were still supposed to be about the topic and not the people, and the moderators did take action against some users. But, it was a place designed to have a good heated argument. Having that separate space worked. It was a “release valve” for the discussions. If something was getting too hot on the “learning” forum, the discussion shifted over to the other board–which people could choose to follow or not.

I do enjoy a good debate, I admit. But sometimes I miss those old forums, where the arguments were somewhat contained. You could put yourself in the mindset for the argument, and then you could leave that space and take a break. The separation made it easier to slow down and think, even in an argument.

On Twitter, LinkedIn, etc., everything is all together. Once you’re in one of those debates, you get instant notifications of replies, rather than a daily digest via email. The notifications encourage you to respond immediately, without thinking. I am certainly guilty of snapping back without pausing enough to think.

I don’t think we can fix the tools and the way its all mixed together, but your reminder to pause and slow down when the emotions are high is a good one.

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